Setting personal boundaries can be a struggle for anyone, but especially for trauma survivors.  There are many reasons for this.  We are afraid of upsetting the other person, making them mad, or that they may “hate” us.  By not setting a boundary, we are trying to protect ourselves from more harm.  Or perhaps we just […]

There have been a couple of sayings in my mind as of late that I’ve used or heard in therapy that can be a struggle for myself and others. The first is, “You cannot buy bread at a hardware store.” I think we all struggle with that in our relationships. We ask for something that […]

Many times with clients, I compare a wound to the therapy process. Some people get a wound on their arm, and with little or no attention, it heals itself. Some people get a wound on their arm, and it gets some bacteria in there or a sliver. It needs to be re-opened and cleaned out […]